I am a co-founder of B-eat and a qualified, experienced specialist in eating disorders. I believe that whether you suffer with anorexia, bulimia, binge-eating or emotional over-eating they convey a deeper anxiety, one that expresses how unhappy you feel about yourself and your world.
Whilst your mind is full of thoughts about controlling your body and what you ‘take in’, or not, getting to some ‘magical’ weight won’t make your life perfect. These eating disordered thoughts have a function, they stop you from thinking about how chaotic your life feels; they are your desperate attempt to feel ‘in control’ when everything else in your life feels out of control.
Loneliness, guilt and fear
There may be some kind of comfort in your eating disorder, you know the ‘rules’, you may wonder what on earth your life would be like without it? The flip side is you are desperately unhappy; what notionally was your armour, something that kept you ‘safe’ is now like a monster that you can’t rid yourself of.
With all the strategies you put in place I suspect your life remains overwhelmingly lonely. You push people away for fear of them interfering with your eating disorder only to feel guilty about how you are hurting those close to you!
I view our working together as supporting you as you navigate your way to a life where you have a different sense of being in control; a quality of life that opens your world to new possibilities. It is about finding a better way to relate to yourself and others without using your body to speak for you.
Eating disorder symptoms may be similar but your history and how you have attempted to make sense of your life are unique to you. My role is to support you in a number of ways, rather like a jigsaw puzzle we look at all the pieces on the table to see what may fit and what perhaps doesn't belong to this picture any more! By stepping back it allows for a different kind of nourishment, one that is not so perfectionistic and punishing.
Eating disorders is a label but it doesn’t sum up who you are.